karennj
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So I have been having some good days and some bad days with Bear. We pretty much hit bottom last Friday when I was watching my friends 1.5yr old daughter. I had Bear on leash working on keeping him calm from a distance from the kids. I was sitting on the opposite side of the room where the youngest were playing and he was on leash sitting in front of me. My oldest son was a few feet to my right and Bear was sort of facing the space in between us with his back to the younger kids. I was petting his chest as he sat and all the sudden he growled. I have never heard him growl at people before. He does a warning growl to my girl when he is resource guarding something but he never guards his stuff from people. It really startled me and I quickly walked him out of the room into the hallway where he was still able to see everyone but a farther distance away. He seemed relaxed so I had no idea what prompted it. I am pretty sure it was not me. I don't believe it was my older son who was closest because he was not moving (he had 2 soft things in his hands and was kind of banging them together. The 2 little kids were behind him and making noise but nothing crazy. He was facing the TV which was off so I wasn't sure if he saw the movement in the reflection and that started it. My dog was not in the room so I really have no idea what he growled at. Anyway, that was it and I decided I was done. I emailed the breeder letting her know I would try to find a no kid home for him and if I couldn't I was bringing him back after Christmas.
Well, the next couple days I have been watching him like a hawk. I bought a basket muzzle and it arrived today. I got it on him and he was fighting with it and looked absolutely miserable. I started to get upset that he was having such a hard time and just with the whole situation. He managed to get the muzzle off (yea, that thing is garbage) and once he took a minute he was being really good! The kids were being absolutely wild and he was sitting by me on leash but not going nuts with the chaos. I had meatloaf for dinner so I had the kids call him, make him sit and give him a little piece. I took turns picking up all the kids and he would immediately sit waiting for his treat instead of going nuts charging and barking. I have been working on this a lot and he is SOOOO much better. While the kids were playing he was being playful, not pushy so I let them play a bit. The kids ended up playing fetch with him for awhile. When they saw me throwing him the toy they thought it looked like fun and were interested in him. Even my other dog got in on the action playing tug with Bear. He was focused on the toy and not my kids which is a huge improvement from the start of last week. He was sooooo much better today because instead of the kids trying to get away from him, they were interacting with him. It went really well until he lost interest in his toy and thought my daughter would make a better one and mouthed her which made her cry. He did not leave any marks and I saw the whole thing, it was totally play. If I could just teach him to not use his mouth they would not be afraid to play with him. I guess once he loses interest in his toy and the kids start ignoring him, I really need to be on top of him
He definitely has 2 different reactions to the kids. One is totally play which I saw tonight and it is much less pushy than it used to be. The other is when he is a bit anxious by their behavior and that is the one that concerns me. That is when he approaches them, nose punches and walks away trying to get them to stop doing whatever it is they are doing. If we can have more days like this we may just have hope. Maybe he will just get used to their crying/fighting and won't feel the need to react anymore? The thing I really love, he never bothered my youngest even though he was pretty amped up. Normally he is searching for him when he gets excited.
By the way I have been using a flirt pole with Bear and he LOVES it!!!
Here is a video of him tonight with the kids. I need to work with the kids to not get him all worked up and then tell him "no" when he accepts their play invitation. But, I guess it is good that he listens to them! Makes me smile!
[video=youtube_share;_LK5SOiP6Zw]http://youtu.be/_LK5SOiP6Zw[/video]
Well, the next couple days I have been watching him like a hawk. I bought a basket muzzle and it arrived today. I got it on him and he was fighting with it and looked absolutely miserable. I started to get upset that he was having such a hard time and just with the whole situation. He managed to get the muzzle off (yea, that thing is garbage) and once he took a minute he was being really good! The kids were being absolutely wild and he was sitting by me on leash but not going nuts with the chaos. I had meatloaf for dinner so I had the kids call him, make him sit and give him a little piece. I took turns picking up all the kids and he would immediately sit waiting for his treat instead of going nuts charging and barking. I have been working on this a lot and he is SOOOO much better. While the kids were playing he was being playful, not pushy so I let them play a bit. The kids ended up playing fetch with him for awhile. When they saw me throwing him the toy they thought it looked like fun and were interested in him. Even my other dog got in on the action playing tug with Bear. He was focused on the toy and not my kids which is a huge improvement from the start of last week. He was sooooo much better today because instead of the kids trying to get away from him, they were interacting with him. It went really well until he lost interest in his toy and thought my daughter would make a better one and mouthed her which made her cry. He did not leave any marks and I saw the whole thing, it was totally play. If I could just teach him to not use his mouth they would not be afraid to play with him. I guess once he loses interest in his toy and the kids start ignoring him, I really need to be on top of him
He definitely has 2 different reactions to the kids. One is totally play which I saw tonight and it is much less pushy than it used to be. The other is when he is a bit anxious by their behavior and that is the one that concerns me. That is when he approaches them, nose punches and walks away trying to get them to stop doing whatever it is they are doing. If we can have more days like this we may just have hope. Maybe he will just get used to their crying/fighting and won't feel the need to react anymore? The thing I really love, he never bothered my youngest even though he was pretty amped up. Normally he is searching for him when he gets excited.
By the way I have been using a flirt pole with Bear and he LOVES it!!!
Here is a video of him tonight with the kids. I need to work with the kids to not get him all worked up and then tell him "no" when he accepts their play invitation. But, I guess it is good that he listens to them! Makes me smile!
[video=youtube_share;_LK5SOiP6Zw]http://youtu.be/_LK5SOiP6Zw[/video]