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Why won't my dog look at me

musicdeb

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The only thing I disagree with is they recommend talking to your vet about behavioral issues. I may be wrong but I do not believe vets have the training knowledge just like most do not have the food knowledge.

Why Wont My Dog Look Me in the Eye?

Q. My rescue dog is uncomfortable with eye contact. Why does eye contact make her act so skittish? How can I teach her that eye contact is an OK thing?


In many human cultures, eye contact is viewed as a way to make a connection and show interest, but for dogs, eye contact sends a different message. Seeing eye-to-eye is likely viewed by your dog as more of a threat than a measure of good will.


Depending on the socialization your dog received as a puppy, her genetic predisposition and her experience before you adopted her, eye contact may actually be perceived as a significant enough threat to spark aggression. Unless she is taught that eye contact is OK, it is possible that she could progress from simply being skittish to biting.


Why Dogs Don’t Make Eye Contact


In the canine world, prolonged eye contact rarely occurs in friendly contexts; it is more commonly seen as a threat or challenge to another dog. Direct eye contact may occur in play, such as a bow with eye contact to initiate a chase sequence, but outside of specific situations, prolonged eye contact between two dogs is rare. Instead, you will more frequently see one dog turn his head away from another dog in order to avoid eye contact; this is an appeasement gesture designed to diffuse any potential conflict and avoid a fight.


Though direct eye contact may not be natural for dogs, canines will often learn that eye contact with people can result in good things, like attention and food. One study found that dogs are able to track human eye movement, which helps them perceive a person’s intent.


Teach Your Dog to Make Eye Contact


Eye contact is one of the most important first behaviors to teach a dog. Puppyhood is the prime time to train a dog to make eye contact, but training can be done into adulthood as well — for example, with a newly adopted adult dog. However, if your dog displays any form of aggression in response to eye contact, a professional should be involved in the training process. Talk with your veterinarian, who can refer you to a qualified trainer if needed.


My favorite way to teach eye contact is by teaching “look at me.†Teach your dog this cue by letting eye contact happen naturally on its own. Start by putting your dog on leash; have a treat bag on hand. Keep your body still and wait for your dog to look up toward your eyes. As soon as your dog makes eye contact, mark the behavior with a “good†or a click and immediately treat.


For dogs unlikely to make eye contact, prompt the behavior by holding a treat a few inches away from your face. If your dog makes any eye movement away from the treat and toward your face, mark the behavior and reward with the treat. When your pooch begins to readily make eye contact, add a cue to the behavior, such as “look,†just as your dog begins to shift her gaze to your eyes.
Once your dog understands that making eye contact with you is a good thing, teach her to generalize the behavior. Practice making eye contact in a variety of positions: while you’re sitting, kneeling, bending over or doing any other common movement. Also practice in a range of environments until your dog comfortably offers the behavior when asked regardless of context. Practice “look†with a variety of other people, starting with close family and friends and working up to people the dog is less familiar with. Progress with training only as long as your dog remains relaxed and does not display fear. Give her ample rewards so that she learns to associate eye contact with positive things.
With training and patience, your dog can learn to make eye contact. If she exhibits any signs of stress, fear or aggression, however, contact your veterinarian immediately for additional advice.
 

mx5055

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Great post Deb. I also agree with you about vets not always having enough/incorrect training in behavioral issues.

I also feel (IMPO) that a lot of times when people get a new puppy they are so gung ho to teach it all the "appropriate" commands, that they forget the really important first step of "bonding" with their pup, and learning who "their pup" is. Too many compare and worry about their pup/dog "keeping up" with what the Jones'es dog is doing. If their pup doesn't keep up, or has different "issues" they start questioning their pup and the "negative" labeling begins...ie, dominant, aggressive, etc.

This is where the focusing/bonding to YOUR pup is so very important. Get to know YOUR pup. Spend the time "teaching" your pup what you want/expect it to do; they are not born knowing this. Pups/Dogs don't have "morals"...they don't understand the concept of "revenge", have "temper tantrums" etc. And, you can't effectively teach your pup/dog anything if you don't have it's attention!!

I could go on and on, but hopefully others will chime in! I'm glad you started this thread :)
 

Duetsche_Doggen

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Good post Deb and I agree Cindy. I didn't realize it but it was something that I had missed with Stone, though he didn't come at the best stage in time.....slumlord, work etc. With Thor and now Mason I spent time getting to "know" them spending time one on one. Not saying that Stone and I don't have some sort of bond, after Thor passed we spent some time together but not much. Luckily dogs are very forgivable. :)
 

DennasMom

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When we adopted our rescue bulldog (at 1 year old), he did he best to ignore us and just bully his way through life - even on the NILF plan, he did the least amount possible. Then we started the 'look at me' exercises, and those REALLY helped. They say eye contact is not welcome in the canine world, but as soon as he realized eye contact was not going to get him a beating (the opposite, in fact... it brought rewards in praise, treats, door openings, etc) - it became a great and welcome thing. So, I wonder why it's "bad" in the canine world - just because it's normally documented during greetings between strange dogs, when they're feeling each other out? How often to pack members greet with eye contact in a positive manner? Do puppies ever look each other in the eye? Or is the dog-human eye contact thing part of the domestication process that dogs have gone through over the years?

I can give Denna commands with my eyes... of course, she knows what's coming... if I say sit and she doesn't sit - she often just stares at me, like "you sure?"... if I raise my eyebrows, she knows I mean it, and will then comply. :)

My vet actually has some helpful thoughts on training and behavior - being a dog owner, also, she shares her experiences there. But, she's not my first source for behavior problems... I think you guys are now! HA!
 

ruthcatrin

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A direct staring gaze is part of the body language that means CHALLANGE! For canines. Having said that most domesticated dogs don't have a huge problem learning Look at me, they seem to get that they're following a command and so its ok.
 

musicdeb

Well-Known Member
Great post Deb. I also agree with you about vets not always having enough/incorrect training in behavioral issues.

I also feel (IMPO) that a lot of times when people get a new puppy they are so gung ho to teach it all the "appropriate" commands, that they forget the really important first step of "bonding" with their pup, and learning who "their pup" is. Too many compare and worry about their pup/dog "keeping up" with what the Jones'es dog is doing. If their pup doesn't keep up, or has different "issues" they start questioning their pup and the "negative" labeling begins...ie, dominant, aggressive, etc.

This is where the focusing/bonding to YOUR pup is so very important. Get to know YOUR pup. Spend the time "teaching" your pup what you want/expect it to do; they are not born knowing this. Pups/Dogs don't have "morals"...they don't understand the concept of "revenge", have "temper tantrums" etc. And, you can't effectively teach your pup/dog anything if you don't have it's attention!!

I could go on and on, but hopefully others will chime in! I'm glad you started this thread :)
Absolutely agree. Bonding is extremely important. Titan and I have finally bonded after 16 months. He shocks me now when he listens to me.