Boxergirl
Well-Known Member
If we are taking children (human children) I have to say imo it is really dependent on the kid. There are so many different types of personalities. I know Sean and his brothers were all spanked regularly and they joke about it laughing about how their parents weren't strong enough to cause them any pain, and it was clearly not in any way traumatic for them. For me as a child anyone raising their voice to me would leave me in tears and raising a hand pretty much would shut me down mentally etc for at least a day. I don't think when it comes to child rearing that there is truly a "one size fits all" response. Then again I haven't raised kids yet (just helped raise my much younger sisters) so maybe there is some magical secret I don't yet know.
Actually, I was initially just responding when Season said, "some people ... don't spank their kids because they consider that hitting..." Since "spank" is synonymous, by definition, with "hit" I was pointing out that technically spanking is hitting. As is smacking, walloping, whacking, etc. By definition. I was never debating if it was abusive or not. IMO, that's totally dependent upon the delivery and whether it's traumatic to the child, as you said, Nik.